Have you ever thought about the things you wished people would do for you? For instance, do you feel like people rarely check up on you? Or that you don’t often get invited out with others? Maybe you’re always doing for others, but don’t feel like others do for you when you’re in need. Or maybe it’s something even deeper, like wishing you had someone in your life who could help guide you through its various stages and be there for you through the highs and lows.
One thing I’ve learned is to be to someone else what I wanted people to be for me. It can be disappointing when our expectations of people go unmet, but when we understand that we cannot make people see our needs and we decide to see the needs in others, our focus changes. We stop looking at what people are not doing for us, and focus on what we can do for others.
This is a selfless way to live. It isn’t easy to do because we all have a core longing to be seen, heard, and loved. When we pour into others the way we desire to be poured into, there’s a sense of fulfillment that’s greater than self.
It’s the “Golden Rule” – do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It doesn’t say to do unto others IF they do unto you. It’s reciprocity without conditions.
Be to others what you feel you have lacked from others. Break the cycle. Fill the void. Be the light.
